Single Moms are Easy?

What's that you say? Why is the title of this crazy chic's blog "Single Moms are Easy?". Well my friend. I will tell you! First, for a little background. I am a single Mommy, with three kids, ages 6, 3 and 2. I have been single for about two and a half years, when my ex-husband left (while I was pregnant no less). Since then, I have been raising my three kids, and have recently moved back in with my Mom for a little extra help while I work and go to school.

That being said, I am also a young(ish) 27 years old. Upon becoming single, I found that there was a whole world unbeknownst to me. It was called "The Dating World". It felt like an uncharted territory that I had yet to explore. It was also full of strange signals, innuendos, and un-classified relationships. You see, I had never really "dated". I met my ex-husband. We fell in love. I moved in. We got married. We had babies. It was pretty cut and dry, and therefore, I had never experienced what dating life was about. In the past two years, I have run across many interesting dating situations. However, I went on a date rather recently that really had me quite baffled for days.

The date started out really well. The boy, we shall call him "Bob", took me out to a nice restaurant for brunch. This was actually our second date, and we were getting along well. I have never been one to be subtle, and I had let him know that I was not in it to be a NCMO (or, Non-Committal-Make-Out), and he had asked me out on a second date, so, you know. Whatever. Bob is younger than me, he is 22, so, the topic of single mothers came up. And I think I said something like "Your younger, why do you want to take a single mom out?" and his response was "Well, I actually like to date single moms, because single moms are easy." He then looked at me for a minute and said "Except you. Your not easy."

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I WAS FLABBERGASTED! What?! Is this true? ARE single moms easy? I would have to disagree on this one, however, it is very hard, and very lonely to be single. So, I can understand that girls would look for attention by running into the arms (or the bed) of some dude. However, I have to believe this is a bit of a stereotype....I hope.

In my experience, quality guys are few and far between when you have children. Many boys just stop talking to me after I tell them I have three kids. And, the general consensus amongst boys seems to be that single moms ARE easy. I mean, can someone tell me where the "Easy" sign is attached so that I can take it off? Please?

So, that is where this blog comes in. I have met many a young single mom, and we all have our stories to share. So, since it is quite cathartic for me to write, I am setting myself a goal. I will try to write a blog every day for a year, chronicling my life as a single mother. They may not always be long. They may not always be about dating. They may not always be interesting. However, there are a lot of young single parents out there, and I think that we are a group which is looked over, or misjudged. This is just my way of sharing how life is for one of us.

In each blog I am going to write a "rule of the day". These will be my personal dating or child rearing rules, which, are generally quite quirky. I am also going to have a "Show and Tell" for the day. This will be anything from a song I like, to a recipe, to a picture. Whatever I feel like sharing. It is my blog after all.

So. Here it goes....

RULE OF THE DAY: For me, it is always important to be honest when dealing with potential dates. Therefore, my number 1 rule is that I always tell the boy that I have three babies before the first date. I don't wait to spring that information on them because if they don't want to take me out on one date once they find out I have children, I don't want to date them anyway.

Here is my first SHOW AND TELL (wewt!): There is a British singer that I absolutely love, her name is Paloma Faith, and this is my favorite song of hers:



Well kids, catch ya tomorrow!

xx